Myth #1: If you control everything, life works.
Reality: You can't control everything.
You have to go with the flow.
Myth #2: I should do it all and all right now.
Reality: I can't do it all, but I can do what's important.
Myth #3: The best way to make it through mothering is to grin and bear it till it gets better.
Reality: Enjoy today. Make the most of life's irretrievable moments . . . now.
Myth #4: Mothering is serious business and the lives of your children are at stake at every moment.
Reality: Lighten up. Children are resilient. Handle them with honesty and humor.
I put the Myths in bold because they are what we hear naturally from the infamous, sometimes screaming, voices in our heads, but we have to, on purpose, look for the Reality.
Reality: You can't control everything.
You have to go with the flow.
Myth #2: I should do it all and all right now.
Reality: I can't do it all, but I can do what's important.
Myth #3: The best way to make it through mothering is to grin and bear it till it gets better.
Reality: Enjoy today. Make the most of life's irretrievable moments . . . now.
Myth #4: Mothering is serious business and the lives of your children are at stake at every moment.
Reality: Lighten up. Children are resilient. Handle them with honesty and humor.
I put the Myths in bold because they are what we hear naturally from the infamous, sometimes screaming, voices in our heads, but we have to, on purpose, look for the Reality.
A group of girls and I have started a MOPS group here in our area - I'd encourage you moms to consider starting a group or finding a group in your area. There is no real virtue in being the Lone Ranger Mommy (although I tried that route) - I have been very encouraged by the other moms in our group. If you have questions about starting a group, I'd be happy to help any way I can.
Happy Mothering!
"Myth #1: If you control everything, life works.
ReplyDeleteReality: You can't control everything.
You have to go with the flow."
This applies even if you are not a mother- it is a lesson I am still learning. I enjoy reading your thoughts.
Jodi
Liz,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder to constantly see what is real. It's easy to lose sight of that.
Thank you for sharing this. It is so easy to listen to those voices in our head...and stay in a beaten down, discouraged state. I have needed to learn and am still learning how to be realistic in my motherhood approach and in other areas of life. Keep posting these thoughts...they are so helpful. I would love a MOPS group...maybe I will check into that.
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